The years between elementary school and high school can be some of the most challenging for girls.
As friendships change, social pressures grow and self-doubt begins to creep in, many start questioning who they are and where they fit in.
To help girls navigate that transition with confidence, Hope through Housing asked four high school students – all former after-school program participants – to counsel 14 elementary and middle school girls at its annual Young Girls Back-to-School Mentorship Workshop.
Mariam, 15, said the message she wanted every girl to hear was simple.
“Really be yourself. Show what’s unique about you to others,” she said. “Don’t let anybody put you down.”
Service coordinator Stephanie Joseph created the workshop to help girls build confidence before the school year begins.
“I want them to really know who they are, despite what other people try to say,” Joseph said. “I want them to always be secure and know they are perfect just the way they are.”
Throughout the day, the girls practiced breathing techniques to manage stress and anxiety, discussed healthy friendships, read books about emotions and self-care, and looked into mirrors as they identified the qualities that make each of them unique.
The mentors said the event was a chance to give back to the program that helped shape them.
“It was really nice because I know I was once in their shoes,” Mariam said. “I learned a lot from the girls who spoke to me, and I’m glad I could do the same for them.”
Potamina, 13, said it was fun to return to help the younger girls.
“It was honestly really fun because I got to help them the way people helped me,” she said.
Her advice focused on something practical.
“Stay on top of your grades and do your homework,” she told the girls.
The day concluded with an activity designed to leave each participant with a reminder of what they learned. Every girl created a Build-A-Bear, tucked a personal wish inside and took home affirmation cards with messages including, “I’m beautiful inside and out,” “I believe in myself” and “My dreams matter.”
“If they’re feeling anxious or something happened at school or at home, they have their little friendship bear,” Joseph said. “They can hold it and remember the special wish they put inside. It’s part of helping them calm down and remember how special they are.”
